Popular media personality, Toke Makinwa took to her YouTube channel Toke Moments, to warn people in abusive relationships cum marriages. The episode is titled Its ok to leave and Toke says if your marriage and relationship isn’t working and you are fast becoming a shadow of yourself, then it’s time to leave.
“Sometimes you need to work at it, you work at your career, you work at your job, when it is too much work and less result it’s time to say to yourself ‘May be this is not where I am supposed to be’. When all you are ever thinking about is how the situation is consuming your soul then may be its time to leave. People don’t like to say these things openly because they believe when it comes to marriages, you cannot tell people to leave. Why would someone make you commit murder or spend the rest of your life in jail? It’s not that serious. I heard the story of how a woman smashed her husband to death because of rice.”
Speaking on the importance of being in the right mental state, she says it is better to leave in a good mental state than to worry about making it work at the expense of your own mental state.
“We worry about so many things and we don’t worry about our own mental state . It’s okay to leave. We ask ourselves questions like: “Would I ever find someone else who would look at me? No time for time wasters, let them go” she concludes.
Recall that Toke Makinwa left when her marriage to fitness expert, Maje Ayida wasn’t working.
Watch the video below
