By Oke Chinye
Read: Proverbs 5:1-23
“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth… may her breasts satisfy you always” (Proverbs 5:18-19).
ow you deal with the sexual problem in a marriage depends on what the underlying factors are. If you are a wife who has been deeply wounded by her husband’s infidelity or other act of betrayal, you need to let go and forgive him wholeheartedly. Harbouring a grudge is like cancer, it will eat deep into the fabric of your soul. It will eventually destroy every element of your marriage and not just your sexual relationship, because when you feel deeply hurt by your husband, it is impossible to give yourself wholly to him. Let him know that you still feel hurt irrespective of how long ago it was and then ask God to help you forgive and release him. You will be amazed at how free you would feel.
If you are a man struggling with erectile dysfunction, which is the ongoing inability to obtain or sustain erection that is sufficient for sexual intercourse, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Research indicates that more than 50% of men over 40 years will experience some form of sexual dysfunction at some point in their lives. Treatment for erectile dysfunction has improved significantly over the years. Speak to a Urologist who will assess the cause of the dysfunction and proffer a solution, either in terms of drug prescriptions or lifestyle changes. Fortunately, most cases are successfully dealt with.
As a woman, if you feel your excess weight is inhibiting your sexual fulfilment, why not determine to do something about it today. Excess weight in a man can also reduce his libido so staying in shape is vital for both the man and his wife. If you recognize that the demands of life are affecting your sexual relationship, be deliberate about making time for each other. The bible states that there is a time for every purpose and activity on earth. Nurturing your marriage is an important purpose, so take time to nurture it. When you put in the time and effort needed to make your marriage great, you will be the better for it. Lastly, sexual preferences are dynamic, stay in touch with the needs of your spouse. When you are committed to satisfying his or her preferences, your sex life will remain passionate and fulfilling irrespective of how long you have been married.
IN HIS PRESENCE is written by Dcns Oke Chinye, Founder of The Rock Teaching Ministry (TRTM).
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