By Oke Chinye
Read: Ephesians 5:22-33
“Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Ephesians 5:33).
great marriage is a product of the efforts of the husband and wife. The husband is commanded to love and nurture his wife as his own body. No one ever treats his own body with disdain. God is concerned with how a husband treats his wife. The bible contains commands and warnings on this. In 1 Corinthians 7:3, husbands were entreated to render to their wives the affection due them. In Proverbs 5:15-20, husbands were warned to stay faithful to their wives. Hebrews 13:4 reiterated the need to respect the marriage vows and Malachi 2:16 expressed God’s hatred for divorce. “Take heed to your spirit and let none of you deal treacherously with the wife of your youth” (Malachi 2:15).
The person your wife has become today is in part the fruit of what you have been sowing into her life. If your wife is tainted with emotional blemish or character defects, check what you are sowing into her life. If she is a nag, you may need to consider whether you willingly listen to her views on issues or whether you constantly shrug them off. If she is unattractive or uninteresting, consider whether you have sown love, attention and praise or criticisms and neglect. If your home is in disarray, determine whether you have provided the loving leadership that is required of you. God is not mocked, whatever a man sows, he reaps. If you want to see beauty and splendour in your wife and in your home, purpose today to change the seeds you are sowing.
A wife is commanded to submit to her husband. Proverbs 14:1 says, “the wise woman builds her house. But the foolish pulls it down with her hands”. A wise builder chooses to lose the argument to win the battle. She overlooks offences and forgives easily. She is willing to submit to her spouse even when it is difficult to do so. The foolish builder is contentious and proud, unwilling to bend or yield to her husband. She would rather win every argument to prove she is right. Philippians 2:3-4 says, “let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem (the other) better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of (the other)” “A good marriage is a contest of generosity” (Diane Sawyer).
IN HIS PRESENCE is written by Dcns Oke Chinye, Founder of The Rock Teaching Ministry (TRTM).
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