By Onyinye Chinye
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things” (Philippians 4:8).
It is almost impossible to live a satisfying or fulfilling life by default; so much gets thrown at us daily. You need to intentionally protect your self-confidence if you desire to live a happier and more fulfilling life. Begin by observing and auditing your focus: Ask yourself regularly: “what am I focusing on and how is this affecting how I feel?” Then change your focus if you need to. By default, the human brain prefers to focus on what could go wrong. It would rather focus on what you have lost, why it happened and whose fault it was than on what you can gain and how you can do better next time. Your goal should be to spend more time on the things that build your confidence and less time on the things that erode it.
Eliminate outside forces or influence: What is that thing in the outside world that robs you of your self-confidence when you see it? Social media handles of certain people? Other people’s views, advice or presence? Take a diet of whatever it is. Focus on your strengths – figure out what you are good at and become amazing at it. Don’t keep working on your weaknesses as this will slow down your progress or even stop you. Pay others to do what you are not good at.
Lastly, take charge of your life; get out of the goal post and play. Action breeds confidence, inaction breeds fear. Choose to be a thermostat which controls things rather than a thermometer that fluctuates based on the happenings around it. Control your own outcomes.
IN HIS PRESENCE is written by Dcns Oke Chinye, Founder, Rock Teaching Ministry (TRTM)
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